We knew Serge Gainsbourg, a great lover of women. During the last years of his life, between 1985 and 1990, it has maintained a relationship with Constance Meyer, now a photographer. It reveals in The Young Girl and Gainsbourg, his relationship with the icon of the French song, she has known when she was only 16 years old, Gainsbourg was then 57 years old. Maintenance.
France-Soir. Why have you waited a quarter of a century later to tell this story ?
Constance Meyer. Because of this relationship, the first that I had with a man, was so intense that it justified that I let time to time. I had to also respect the family of Serge. She has done her mourning. His son Lulu, is sufficiently large. I didn’t want to offend anyone. I am not a whoremonger.
F.-S. You write not to have felt any embarrassment to have attended a man older than you. Yet, you consider this book as a therapy…
C. M. Not to give more credence to have loved, a man forty years my senior, but to cure me of the ills caused by his death, in march 1991, which I never was so no discount that I’ve been able to say goodbye to him. A suffering that is coming into my life, and I needed to get free. Because keeping in itself is such a secret hinders the process of mourning to be accomplished.
“Bamboo was aware of : she saw it on the weekend ; and me, the week ”
F.-S. The fact that he shared his life with Bamboo never seems to have been for you taboo…
C. M. Serge was an adult. It was, in conscience, its own choice. I do not see why I should have interfered in the manifestation of its feelings. Especially as I was fully consenting. As for Bamboo, I do not believe him to have removed anything, we got along perfectly : she saw him on the weekend ; and me, the week. I did my best to bring to Serge the extra condition that is needed in every great artist.
F.-S. How would your parents have reacted by learning the existence of this link ?
C. M. I was living with my mother. I got it from him, obviously not immediately confessed. Until one day she received a call late Serge, who wanted to talk to me, while I was sleeping. This put the chip in the ear. I eventually tell him everything. In a first time, she expressed reluctance. But she quickly realized the opportunity I had to attend to so close to such a genius.
F.-S. in Retrospect, do you think you have been attracted to the man or the symbol Gainsbourg ?
C. M. Without a shadow of a doubt, I was seduced by what he really was, not by his public image. My entire life I have not met a man as kind, shy, touching, and generous as him.
F.-S. This first relationship does it have conditioned your vision of the romantic relationship ?
C. M. Necessarily. And if I’ve experienced other loves, including the father of my two children, has never been imbued with such intensity. Which now makes me a woman in perpetual quest of an ideal that my years spent alongside Serge Gainsbourg made inaccessible.
A narrative touching
An incredible story as that of Constance Meyer, a teenager of 16 years then, well sour any report, good student, good family, without particular problems : leaving a single word with her phone number under the door of Serge Gainsbourg as did hundreds of fans before her, she managed by a miracle to meet him, after he had called. The beginning of five years of a passion without a hitch, from 1985 to the death of the artist. Throughout this moving account, she will confess any carnal intercourse, modesty requires, preferring to sign a vibrant tribute to the one that remains his best memory. The human qualities, the few that were hers are highlighted. Just like his lifestyle, his way of thinking and acting, consistent with the image we had of the singer in his lifetime.
Constance Meyer, The Young Girl and Gainsbourg, 141 p., Editions de l’archipel, 14,95 €. Released on 6 October 2010.